Husband wants an open marriage after his wife admits to sleeping with a man in a bar
So his offer of marriage to an open marriage?
is interesting, to say the least.
Well, where do I start here?
the first thing to do when you decide to play with fire, do not be surprised when you get burned. She decided to cheat on their spouse and there may not be a happy ending like in the movies.
Hopefully, if two people agree to get married this for the long haul. Relationships are not easy, as we all agree there are good and bad things.
came across this thread in a forum Infidelity Love Shack.
The story is told of a wayward wife is sleeping with a stranger in a bar after going out with his girlfriend. This night took place after the "magic" of a handful of fights with her husband. A long time goes by before she finally confesses and explosions (did not see that coming). You think about it a little, sit him down and tell me that he was so disgusted by his actions that he does not want to make love to her again. So she offers him an ultimatum to keep the marriage if she agrees to an open marriage in which sex is accompanied month. ( Now I am also outraged that. ) And if he does not agree, you want to become.
Both sudden decisions. He cheated. He also acted emotions, and came to a negative proposition. Yes, terrible cases but did not make a quick decision on a long-term relationship. The wrong decisions were fast, but not fast healing. There is no quick fix here. The feelings would run for a while no matter what.
My wife cheated on me not too long ago. Before cheated of us were very happy. It was not sparkle as before. Because I've got things definitely got better. Both men reacted more positively with each other and doing what marriage is all about share .
I still feel hurt.
While the raw emotion and the fire burns not add gasoline to the fire. No need to burn all the brighter.
So what would have been a better way to handle this situation (in my opinion)?
What is the betrayed husband had
only made matters worse by the fact that such a ridiculous solution. What does this offer it mean?
- This means that you have been thinking about having sex with another woman for a while, and now you have found the perfect excuse?
- What is more important than sex or marriage? What do you expect to happen to the people?
- Do you think the wife will say. "Yeah, okay, honey, that's for sure Anything to stay with you I was wrong, tell me, and now I have the right to have sex with whomever you want. . I'll just wait right here and dinner for you too. "?
Ridiculous! I want to throw up.
Two wrongs will not be a good one. Life is not logical or reasonable.
What is the errant spouse to do if he really wants to be Married (again in my opinion)
- Title feelings effectively immediately. It has to be impressive her grief and empathy for the pain. This can only happen actions word and body language .
- determines that two wrongs do not become a good in their head.
- do not want cut accusing him of being unfaithful.
- trusted not to talk about it. It will only ignite the fire has been burning.
Imagine going out late Friday night, a friend of the same again to let him cheat on her husband. BAD IDEA. You have to shoot your friend.
What can be shown that he knows how hurt he must be, and even attempted to give examples of what you think he is feeling. They offer him a way out if things do not work after giving it time to think things out. Reiterate that a quick decision on what started this fiasco to begin with.
Do not stoke the fire, I can get out of control.
Do you communicate your feelings and what you think body language more than anything else. I always keep my wife's body language when talking about difficult issues in our relationship who is not ?
Back Offer errant spouse
he should suggest that it will take time, and do nothing for a while. See how they feel later. Now is not the time to talk. Rethink things before speaking. If after a while you do not want to stay, then he may divorce.
brought me a rash choice to cheat. There will not be a quick recording devices sorry. If he wants to leave after taking the time to review, then these consequences.